Those things that Matter the Most

Those things that Count the Most

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At a point in time, we lose sight of things that ought to keep us vibing despite all odds. Rather, we are occupied by ''self' that seeing beyond our nose becomes one of the most daunting tasks ever. What is life without the love of family, company, and the little sacrifices we make? Today, it is obvious that due to events we seem to hold so dear to our hearts, those things which make life worth living are neglected with reckless abandon. 

Life is so vast that at times we are caught in-between its web of confusion and anomaly. Although our elementary quarters narrow down the essential elements for survival to food, water, and shelter; these seem to make life and our direction while living through the journey more meaningful and patterned. Patterned in the sense that man is disposed to believing that his main goal on earth is simply to pursue the important amenities in the likes of what to eat, where to lay his head, and probably how to keep clean and healthy. As a result, man becomes too focused on self-actualization because he is tremendously motivated by an innate intuition of a preconceived and unchecked reality. In most cases, he becomes indisposed to societal commitments and conforms to a mechanized system of survival especially when put under enormous pressure; where he senses lack or the tendency to fail.

In retrospect, humans are becoming less socially conscious and are more focused on how to please for what the eyes can endorse while making little or no impact on the society or having a less positive influence on others. This leaves a vacuum that yearns to be filled, but in trying to do so, it seems like pouring water on stone because of the vast emptiness that exists as we try to cover up our excesses. Our modern realism has left out the touch of family, relationships, and community development.

Family

Often times, we have read it, heard it, or even said these words aloud: ‘family is everything or family overall.’ This is easier said than done these days. It is obvious that with the unstable economies of many nations, both partners in most cases are forced to go out to earn a living, leaving kids in the hands of strangers or family members. It is with no doubt that at some certain point in time, these parents realize that their infants have grown way out of their control, and have built strange ideologies independently. Unfortunately, it was in those times of making ends meet that a child becomes a collector of characters fashioned by unchecked personalities without the knowledge of their parents, whose main priority was how to pay bills, fees, put a roof over their heads, and have food on the table at all times. As the self is at work towards that means to an end, it also becomes pertinent to streamline attention where required.

 

Relationships

Subsequently, the issue of self turns out to be an issue when it comes to our interaction with other people. Due to the demand or pressure at work, and the yearnings to please, on the one hand, we become intrinsically anti-social beings. Gradually, we grow erratic, enigmatic, on edge most times, gradually; you grow dull and boring to be around that people tend to avoid our company at the slightest opportunity. On the other hand, a situation whereby one finds himself in the midst of people, it is pretty difficult for them to notice the short attention span that accompanied you to the occasion; your mind is bent on recurring tasks that are yet to be executed and targets yet to be met.  Neglecting the fact that the most important thing at that moment is the communion of loved one around you, and the need to grow or maintain that relationship or bond. 

 

Community Development

There is so much to gain in a collective selfless endeavor, which is channeled towards creating or bringing about a memorable and positive impact. In most cases, this is usually perceived or placed at the apex level of humanity because it’s perceived as an aspect that serves as an agent of change. Presently, this is singlehandedly hijacked by that personality that sees only itself in the mirror. Instead of putting the need of individuals at the forefront, it turns into a tale-tell situation to idolize our sacrifices in exchange for applause that gets nothing but the worse out of us as humans.

In summary, we are increasingly growing out of proportion, and tilting towards becoming damaged goods due to the evolving concepts that rule the globe yet championed by misguidedness. This is because we might get to a point where there would be absolutely no room for work-life-balance in existence.  At that point, it could be too late to discover that man has become nothing but an enemy of himself because he has simply neglected the little and pretty gifts of life.

 

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